Wife is spending too much

by Bryan
(Atkins)

The Root of Problems?

The Root of Problems?

Here is my story. I'm raising a son with my abusive wife. I pay all the bills and have about 200.00 left over each month. My wife has to smoke at least two packs of cigarettes a day which cost about $7 per pack. Do the math. That comes out to about 400.00 per month. My son and I barely eat now since her smoking takes all the money. If I do not buy her cigarettes then things get broken, and I get cussed out. I am now behind every bill including rent, and she doesn't understand why we do not have any money. Boy did I marry I LOSER! to be continued.

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Wife is spending too much
by: Anonymous

It seems that things aren't going to get better anytime soon. Instead of not getting anywhere with your situation, you need to use the resources to your advantage, by speaking to your local family attorney, your church, or even your counselor to see if any of these issues can be fixed. It won't happen overnight, so be patient. If you feel that you want out of the marriage, file for a divorce. It's going to get ugly-especially when you're fighting for full custody of your child, so be prepared to pay for legal fees. No one-and I mean NO ONE deserves to be mistreated. Why should you tolerate it?!
Managing Problems
by: Anonymous

Bryan, managing relationship problems and differences with a spouse like the problems you are experiencing is difficult. Experience says that doing nothing only makes the problems worse over time. Meanwhile, acting out of frustration and doing the wrong things makes the problems worse too. Consider asking a professional for advice and help to find the right course of action. A profession can look at the situation without bias and help find a solution. Consider counselors through a local church, a domestic violence hotline, or a local family law attorney. All of these professional organizations can help guide you toward helpful resources and help to bring your wife to the table in a way that does not pit you against her. Ultimately, you will need to work together and get on the same team, even if it means you must agree to be apart. It may take time and a lot of patience. If you are being abused or feel the type of anger and control issues that could cause you to be abusive, then you really must make the call for help, so that you don't wind up with someone getting hurt or in terrible legal trouble.

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